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Perfect Reasons to Have a Second Child

Perfect Reasons to Have a Second Child

Why not give your kid one “built-in” best friend by having a second child? Most couples prefer to have only one child for reasons like additional responsibility or financial burden. Being parents of two or more kids can be more challenging than raising a single child. However, having a second kid in enriching for the parents as well as the siblings in more ways than one. The two become the closest of friends, they grow together, and learn so much from one another. Having two children in the family strikes a good balance and has a positive effect on the overall development of both the kids.

Reasons to Have a Second Child
► The kids will grow up together and develop a deep attachment for each other. They will share a very special bond.

► You will have more time for yourself while the children play or study together. You will get some free time as a couple, when the children spend time with each other.

► They will have an opportunity to resolve conflicts and work things out by themselves when they fight with each other.

► The kids will learn to take care of each others needs. In sharing their TV-time, food, toys, and other belongings, they will learn the value of sharing. In small ways, this sharing will also teach them the value of sacrifice or the beauty of doing something for loved ones. Rather than thinking “I”, “me”, and “my”, they will start thinking in terms of “we” and “us”.

► There is no better person to learn from than a sibling. Most of the things you taught your first child will be passed on to the second child by the older one. Whether it’s related to study, play, or family values, the younger child will learn a lot from the elder one. Starting with just imitating his/her elder sibling, the bond with soon build into the younger kid following the elder one.
► Your second child will get the courage and inspiration from your first child for moving ahead in life.

► The first child will develop patience and maturity and learn to take responsibility. The younger sibling will bring out the protective and caring nature of the elder one.

► Your children will have a lifelong friend. They will never be lonely and always keep each other busy and entertained. They will be the most comfortable sharing everything about their lives with each other.

► The kids will learn about division of work. When given a long list of chores, they will realize that sharing tasks and dividing work is a good way to have it done faster.

► Your children, and the beautiful relationship they share will bring more joy and satisfaction into your life.

► You will be able to leave them around in each others care. Even when you are away, they will be there for each other.

► Also, they will have someone to celebrate their joys and achievements with.
► Socializing will be easier for them as they learn to be interactive with each other. When the male child grows up with a sister, he learns to be sensitive towards woman. In the same way, when a female child grows up with a brother, she can understand men better.

► The children will have a shoulder to lean on when times are difficult. They will find it easier to share their setbacks, regrets, or sorrows with one another.

► Having two children, both the parents will have someone to be busy with.

► You will be able to have clothes, books, toys, etc., reused or made available for common use for both the kids.

These are among the many reasons for having a second child. Having two children in the family is surely a more fulfilling experience for the parents. Moreover, it helps in the healthy development of the kids.

Ways To Motivate a Child

Ways To Motivate a Child

How many times do you acknowledge your child and say thank you? A child especially needs encouragement to feel loved and self-motivated. As a parent, it is your responsibility that your child grows up to be a motivated and confident person. As parents, you can help your children develop confidence about their own selves by acknowledging and appreciating their efforts and endeavors.

Learn to take failures in stride

It is not necessary that your child succeeds every time in everything he/she does. Failures are also a part of growing up. If your child does not perform well in something and if you keep nagging him/her, your child will feel disheartened and will lose confidence to try again to do better.

Encouragement goes a long way in shaping a child’s beliefs. Especially in today’s times when children face immense peer pressure and there is so much competition and frustration; it becomes all the more important for parents to encourage their children and support them.

Here are a few simple parenting tips that can help you encourage your child:

Praise your child

Usually parents don’t miss an opportunity to scold their children when they do something wrong, but most often parents tend to forget to acknowledge their children when they do something right. Take some time and try to think how often have you forgotten to praise your children when you asked them to do some chores be it cleaning the table, putting dishes in the sink and so on. No matter how small a task is, praising your child, whenever he/she does a good job is very important.

Praise him/her by saying a few words of appreciation such as “good job, well done,”, “you are on the right track,” “that is a real improvement,” “I’m proud of the way you did this,” “Amazing – How did you do that,” “you are learning fast” and so on. Once you start showing your appreciation when your child does the right things, you will notice that he/she will make extra efforts to do things better.

Say ‘thank you’

Thank your children whenever they do a good job. Many parents feel that saying ‘thank you’ to children is not important. On the contrary saying a simple ‘thank you’ gives that extra push to the child to try harder. Just like adults, children also need appreciation and when their parents thank them, children feel proud of their work and it gives a boost to their confidence.

Be a good listener

The best way to enhance your parent child relationship is by maintaining good communication and listening to your child. Listen to your children about how they spent their day at school, what they say about their friends, the problems they faced and the fun they had. Usually when children don’t get listened to by parents, they either turn to their friends and peers or stop communicating. Their feelings, doubts, questions and emotions get bottled up. Be gentle and understanding with your children and listen to them patiently.

Don’t reward children with money

When your children do some good work, praise them but don’t reward them with money. Getting paid for every little thing they do can make children give over importance to money from a very tender age. For instance, if you reward your child with extra money for doing household chores, he/she will start expecting money for things that are part of his responsibilities of being a family member.

If you keep offering money for doing chores, this will generate a feeling of selfishness and the child will do work only if she is given money. There are other, much fruitful ways of rewarding your child or showing your appreciation. Take out your little one for an outing or a movie, let him invite his friends over for some fun time or surprise your child by getting her something – say, a box of chocolates or a couple of books.

Watch a motivational video

Another good way to encourage a child is by showing them good, motivational videos. There are some great sites which offer amazing inspirational quotes videos which you can watch along with your child. These motivational videos are designed to inspire children, enhance child development and convey the important life lessons of kindness, self-confidence, honesty, self-motivation and creative spirit. These motivational videos also are a great source of tips and information on parenting children effectively.

 

Parenting Tips For Inspiring Children

Parenting Tips For Inspiring Children

The most difficult and trying thing that any person can do in life is raising children. But at the same time, it is also the most rewarding experience. Every mother and father wants to be proud of their kids and have other people compliment them on how well behaved they are or that they are always polite. The goal of nearly every parent is to be inspiring children who grow up to be happy, well -adjusted and productive adults. Check out these good parenting tips that will help you achieve that goal.

The Range of Responsibilities

One of the most important skills that you need to learn is how to delegate responsibilities. Even children as young as three years of age can have certain responsibilities in the house. Little ones can pick up their own toys and even put their cups in the dishwasher or kitchen sink.

As the child gets older, they should be given newer and more difficult chores to do. Of course, this doesn’t mean that a four year old sweep the floors or vacuum the carpet. However, a four year old can help to pull weeds out of the garden, put food down for the dog or cat and even dust the furniture.

By the time your child is eight or ten years old, he or she can vacuum the rugs, load and run the dishwasher and even take out the trash. Parents need to pay attention to their children’ abilities and allow the kids to take on more responsibility as they see fit. It is important to know that all children need responsibilities or you will be raising kids who grow up to have a poor work ethic.

Talk to Each Other

Talking to each other is very important in child parent relationships. Oftentimes, parents do a vast majority of the talking and they fail to take the time to listen to what their children have to say. This is detrimental to any relationship.

Good parenting tip: It is of the utmost importance that you start listening to your children from the time they begin to communicate. By listening carefully to your children, you will have a window into their world and they will be comfortable coming to you with their feelings and problems. Being a parent means listening to your kids.

Play Together

Parenting and inspiring children doesn’t have to be all work and no play. Taking the time and making the effort to play with your kids is essential to a healthy child parent relationship. Playtime is not only fun but life lessons can also be taught while playing with your kids. And it strengthens parent child bonding.

There are loads of ways that you can play with your kids and still teach them things. Naturally, the type of things that you can do will depend upon the age of your children. Pre-school kids will love playing games involving their imaginations. They usually love to play house, school and even store. These are great games where you can help them to learn about household responsibilities, the letters of the alphabet as well as numbers and simple math.

If your kids age between six and ten, there are many more creative things that you can do together. A bike ride through the park will enable you to talk as well as learn new things about nature. Games like Scrabble can help to develop better reading and spelling skills. Being a parent doesn’t mean that you have to cook alone. A cooking lesson with your kids can help their reading and math skills and also help improve your own parenting skills. You should always take the time to play with your children and teach them life lessons while doing day-to-day activities.

 

Ways to Adopt a Baby

Ways to Adopt a Baby

Did you know that Alexander the Great – King of Macedon, Philip V – King of Macedonia, and Marcus Aurelius – Emperor of Rome were adopted? Yes, they were! Adoption has been a part of our written law since the 18th century, during the reign of Babylonian King Hammurabi. The earliest evidence to survive intact is the Code of Hammurabi. This written law precisely mentions clear definitions of adoption.

Adoption

This word is used to refer to a legal process that creates a permanent and new parent-child relationship that did not exist before. This process takes place in a court in front of a judge and bestows on the adoptive parent(s), all the rights and responsibilities normally held by a legal parent. Apart from this, adoption also gives the child who is being adopted all the social, emotional, and legal rights and responsibilities of a family member.

Types

Basically there are two types of adoption. Both of them have been listed below :

  • Open: In this kind, contact between the biological parents and the child is allowed.
  • Closed: In this kind, there is no contact between the biological parents and the child.

Most adoptive parents choose the closed option because it is free of any problems that might surface because of the contact between the child and his/her biological parents. Of course there are couples who also opt for open adoption too, as they feel that the child will benefit from a support system that includes more people. This will also help the child get the required love and support.

Who can adopt?

You can adopt a baby if you are single, childless, or already parenting another child. If you have a disability, you can still do so once the agencies are sure that you can take care of a baby and meet his/her needs throughout his/her childhood. You can also adopt a baby if you have a history of divorce, marital, or personal counseling, of course depending on the same criteria as mentioned above. Adopting a child does not require you to have your own house or have a high income. You can adopt one as long as you provide him/her with permanence, stability, a lifetime commitment, and a chance to be a part of a family.

Today some foreign countries are placing children with single applicants, as follow-up research has shown that single parents are mature, independent, and have a wide and supportive network of family and friends. This scenario is especially suited for children who have trouble dealing with two parents due to a history of neglect and/or abuse.

In the case of infant adoptions in the United States, agency criteria for applicants are more restrictive. They only consider couples who have been married for at least 1 to 3 years, are between the ages of 25 and 40, and have a stable income. Of course there are a few agencies that do accept applicants older than 40 years of age. Some of the agencies in the U.S., require that the couple have no other children and are unable to bear any. There are others that require one parent to not work outside the home for a period of at least 6 months. The agency that places infants for adoption will let you know the specific eligibility regulations and placement options with you.

Adopting a Baby

  • In order to adopt a baby, it is important to decide what type of adoption you would like to pursue. This question depends on whether you would like a domestic or an international adoption. The agency you choose will depend on the choice you make.
  • Once you have zeroed down on an agency, you will be required to fill out lots of forms and answer additional questions. The questions you are asked will help the agency match the right situation.
  • Now the agency will ask you to complete a home study, which is a report that is required by the state. This is conducted by a professional who is licensed by the state. The home study informs the agency about your current life and background.
  • The home study worker will then interview you, your spouse, and your personal references at your home. Of course you can fix the date and time according to when you will be at home. Additionally, you will also have to complete a criminal and child abuse criminal check. In some states, you might also be fingerprinted.
  • After that is over, you might be asked to write a letter to the future birth parents along with photos of your home, family, and you. This is what your profile comprises!
  • Once all the above steps have been completed and all the papers filed are approved, the agency will present your profile to the families wanting to place their child for adoption. Here, many birth parents might want to interview you by phone or meet you in person.
  • If the birth parent(s) has selected you, he/she will sign the relinquishment papers after the baby is born.
  • Now that you have the baby, the social worker will check in with you to see how you and the baby are adjusting. This period can last for 3 months or a year, depending on the state and the age of the child at placement.
  • When that is over, you will be cleared to finalize the adoption. This is when you will return to court where the judge will issue an adoption decree. This is when you become the child’s legal parents and a new birth certificate is issued.